Books on dating divorced dads
Certainly, divorced dads know how tough it is to survive the divorce and its aftermath.
Especially when you have been an innocent victim, or when you put a lot of effort into saving the marriage only to not succeed, there are some serious scars.
They may be used to having dad all to themselves on their weekends with him (or at home if he is the custodial parent) and may worry about being replaced or alone.
What’s more, guys who have been through a divorce generally aren’t in a huge hurry to get back on the horse and start dating again. At least as much as someone who has never been there can.
While you may have help that frees you up for the occasional vacation, dating with kids at different ages and stages can pose logistical and financial challenges, much like age-stage differences in the couple itself. Do listen if he says he isn't interested in helping to parent your kids, he's tired of you only being available for a weekend relationship, or he can't afford to pick up the financial slack for a single mother with children. So do Johnnie and Janie, Fido and Tabby, not to mention the hamsters, Mutt and Jeff.
And that's despite the fact that you're working two jobs already, and he may be working two jobs of his own. The neighbors like him, too, and he and his ex seem very friendly.
Consider golf, stage plays, a board game night, and so forth. This is one of the most common faux pas committed by divorced dads. You need to look forward, not back, and it is an easy way to destroy an otherwise positive evening. No matter how much you miss sex or physical affection, commit yourself to no one night stands and to developing friendships first. Just knowing it’s likely to occur makes it easier to resist. Let’s face it—you will have to date lots of women before you find another long term partner.
It is important for you, and for your children, that you start the dating process slowly and that you don’t have overnight visitors. And that means that you will reject some, and some will reject you. One of the more difficult parts of the process of getting back into the dating scene is dealing with your children.